so sorry babe! My comment was soooo lengthy and long-winded.
The words just came pouring out 
anyway… here’s the link to Adlina’s article
Since the comment was so long, I thought I might as well post it here …
Being hated is definitely the most difficult thing amongst the four things in life. Being hated might mean isolation, having no friends to hang out with and feeling ditched by the rest of the his/her imagined “world”.
But being hated can also mean someone being jealous/envy (which is the case most of the time), having lots of attention from the source of hate (since hate is a very strong emotion, they will definitely remember and keep thinking about you).
I think that being hated for the “right” things (according to one’s own view and beliefs) would be more important than warranting excessive attention through unscrupulous courses of actions which results in being hated by others too.
and remember, there’s also the issue of ethics. The teachings of being nice to everyone, sacrificing your smaller self for the bigger good and many others…
These codes of “conduct” were carved into the many layers of your subconscious, constantly sending out loud beeping alarms for you to remember to abide by the many things that doesn’t benefit yourself and therefore “YOUR” better good.
To ignore and go against something that would constantly send out reminders with the highest priority level would require a huge amount of courage, honor and determination; in my point of view.
To summarize, to allow yourself to be hated is going against the very “nature” nature of self-preservation and the rights & wrongs decided by society/culture (not truly your own to shout out loud).
I think, one should never be an advocate of ethics decided solely by its culture; it would be self-betraying, limiting your true-self and might cripple one’s chance of being truly happy and successful in life.
Of course, the above would mean one’s own definition of happiness and success without the perversion and influence of whatever that’s not “you”.
Not doing “work” seems easy but telling yourself to go against all odds
(which includes responsibilities that you’ve never asked for, your luxurious wants and the lack of innate ability to stand up to the general society’s (HARSH) scrutiny without the cycle of breaking down-pick yourself up-breakdown-pick yourself up… 
will prove to be more difficult than enduring harsh working hours, dissatisfied salary and “evil” colleagues/superiors.
Avoid telling the truth is easy…
It’s adheres to the innate rule of self-preservation (in all ways)
It sometimes will give benefits (more than anyone can imagine) instead of wrongs to the individual.
A seasoned liar will know. The hearts of humans are too fragile to accept the harsh truth and the reality.
When attacked, one will do whatever is possible to defend itself… be it, going into depression (to tell yourself that you’re sad, wallow in self pity and feel “good” about being depressed), blaming others and many more.
Loving someone…
It might be easy for some but impossible for others.
I always thought, one has to love itself before loving others.
We have heard many stories of couples/friends/relationships breaking up because the other party is not “giving” enough.
seriously? the other party will never give enough if one starts to think that he/she is giving too much.
Giving is never to much… unless you give your individuality away.
I’ve always believed in loving myself more.
That way, I’ll be ready to give, feel good and give more.
When I feel good about giving, I’ll like myself more since I feel good about something that I’ve done.
Self-centered and egoistic? Definitely.
I think it’s really rude of me to post such a comment…hurhur
Once again, so sorry Adlina!
I actually had a very lengthy paragraph taken out.
I talked about committing suicide as an act of love for oneself…
and here’s my point of view explained in detail:
You might disagree that committing suicide is an act of loving oneself.
Loving and cherishing are two different things that are often lumped together. To cherish is to love… but to love might not mean cherishing… (my point of view)
To end all connections with the living, including the good things in life (if any), would sound like steering clear of (more) trauma, avoiding solutions and not living in the imagined hell of a future.
To be clearer, when bending your own finger, you would never bend it to the extent that you’ll hear a loud sound officially signifying that your finger is now broken. It’s more like an instinct to stop where you feel is the greatest extent that your finger can go.
To want to die is similar to such an instinct.
When something is too much for the mind to take, it jams on the breaks and start simulating every possible solution that will decide on the next course of action.
It’s just up to everyone to make the decision. Choosing death sounds like a 100% fool-proof plan to stop the hurting. Who, if not he/she loves him/herself, would want to stop any hurting…avoid any trauma and not live in his/her own imagined hellish future?
Orangeline
